Still Single?

Yeah, all the precious single people, myself included.

If you're single and not liking it, please don't rush into a relationship, because having one does not actually enhance your current level of happiness and confidence/self-security. That and more importantly, life is not just about finding a man. There's career, there's family, there're the hobbies, friends, pet projects - you name it.

Of course, in life it's great to be nice, polite and gentle and sweet, and if I may caution against one great mistake, it's to never ever, ever, ever be a pushover. I'm not saying that you have to be an asshole and fight every step of the way - but rather don't feel the need to comply with requests after continued bad behaviour.


Because you're a lady, that's why. And ladies respect themselves, as do gentlemen.

The Bible says "do not awaken love before it's ready" - and I agree: what will you gain if you forced an entry because it was "necessary"? If you had to bust through the door to take a man captive - please know the man doesn't want to be caught.


So... at the risk of being bossy (I'm talking to myself here too): ladies please replace the question "Why isn't he calling" or "when is The One appearing?" to "Hey what's something interesting to do tomorrow?" Each time it happens, think of something interesting to do for the day. 'cause seriously, who's got time to wait for phone calls, or for men to drop into your lap? Besides, singlehood is not an ailment, might's well be happy through it all.

I firmly believe that a happy girl is an beautiful girl, and a happy man is a handsome one.

Both you and I know we want to make our men happy, but we've got to be happy with ourselves first. Otherwise we'd each be a bag of sad, and that's... well, sad.


So... let's find ways to be happy, together. :)