As I thought about the general pseudo-unhappinesses and indirect conflict at dinner (two separate things) with two girlfriends, I understood one thing: never, ever, ever allow yourself to spew ugly words. Ever.
Because ugliness can be instilled. I must never allow that for myself.
It is not easy sometimes because life throws you curve cannonballs, but it is almost always better to be controlled about one's emotions and behaviour. That is true strength, because it is so hard. When it all gets overwhelming, it is important to not push the people close to you away, because they WILL go away. I pray they return. Between sadness and belligerence, it is belligerence that drives people away, simply because they hurt the other person so badly.
That's how you force someone away. Even friendly fire counts. Especially friendly fire - I'm guilty of that myself.
...people will often forget what you say or do, but they will always remember how you make them feel. And I bear this in mind.
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