On Cuts.

When you decide to cut contact with someone, I hope it is after you have tried to reconcile and you have tried to see the good side of the person. I hope that if it did not work out you ultimately understood that the other party isn't a bad person, just - different, to put it mildly.

And then you meet the a*hole who knocks all the goodwill above out of the window. And hey, you WILL meet a*holes. It's horrifying how some people can go straight for the jugular repeatedly without thinking of the consequences. These are the proverbial people without emotional restraint. You may know of one such person, they are often the one who cannot be reasoned with. Sometimes, there isn't anything you can do other than walk away, utterly and completely.

Then you meet the one who can't deal with compliments because - well, because. I don't quite understand this, but these people actually react aggressively when you pay them genuine compliments. Because they think you like them, perhaps. But of course, isn't it? Why would you compliment someone you don't like, or an action you don't agree with?

And of course there are the ones who keep you at an arm's length because your niceness feels uncomfortable to them - this often occurs with the opposite gender. You do things for others because you enjoy it, and you help people you like, don't you? It is presumptuous to think it always means there must be hunka hunka burnin' lurve, does it? Truly, the real attractive people can deal with having friends who are nice, and don't question the niceness, because it is a norm for them.

...I think society and singles these days have become so self-absorbed that they have forgotten how to be attractive AND be friends with each other. Note that I did not say how to be attractive to and be friends with each other.


But I digress.

The above few types have one thing in common - self-centeredness. And it is that self-centeredness that causes the vanity, and thus decay. A lot of these people are lonely. Nobody understands why, not even themselves. I venture an answer, here: they look for that capricious idea of perfection but nobody is perfect.

Liking someone good, isn't good enough anymore.

And they also forget they themselves too fall short of perfection.


...I'm pretty happy, because I see perfection in a lot of people, through their idiosyncrasies and foibles. But that's because I see Jesus in them when they are gracious, and Jesus around them when they try and fail. I pray that these people will see more and more joy in their lives, but I'm not hopeful. Somehow the right to moan is more palatable than actual joy for some. I pray you are not like that, that I too will remain joyous while I experience more of life.

I pray that if I were to become any of these I would be able to cut it out. I pray.