Rejection - Am I Really So Undesirable?

No. You're not undesirable.

I tell myself that, and sometimes I don't believe me, neither. Especially when I'd recently suffered rejection. I kept thinking, if I's so awesome, why then am I single, still? Where are all the men, are they all blind???

I'm sure you're like me sometimes, and you probably feel like I do, tonight. Lying awake, listening to Adele, wondering what went wrong, if there's anything wrong at all. And thinking about it - love - well, truth is, if the other person were head over heels in attraction with you - doesn't that usually mean that the other person is probably "lower than your deserved standards"?

Even if he or she really wasn't?

I hope that when you look at that properly, you'll realise that there's nothing wrong with him or her, like how they'd realise there is nothing really wrong with you*.

...it's awfully sad isn't it, when people place social/personal hierarchies upon themselves and others like this and finally end up lonely during the period? Life's not that hard or complicated, really - cause nobody's really perfect.

...but I suppose people are selfish, and thus would rather find The Perfect One while remaining the imperfect one. Rather you suffer my imperfections than I suffer yours, huh? : /

Well... if you're like that, then may I submit it to you that when you finally meet The Perfect One... that person still won't be good enough? It happens when you know him better. Simply because that person can't take away your unhappinesses just by showing up. If your life isn't in order and you're thus unhappy, chances are you'll continue to be unhappy even when the person shows up. Then they get stressed because try as they will for sure, they probably can't get you to brighten up until you resolve the issue.

Just that not everyone comes into a relationship to solve problems. In fact, sometimes they're looking for someone to solve theirs.

I hope this post speaks to you, and already this post is getting a bit long, I'll chat with you more in the next one.


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*Unless there's continuous unintended aggravation or intended spitefulness, then that's a different story altogether.