thou shalt not panic.

many people when they are at that marriageable age do a bit of a flap-about when they see some of us getting married, and they wonder: good heavens. my friends are getting married and some even have kids already - when'm i going to find my own family, or when is it going to find me?

friends, truth be told, i don't really think it matters whom you marry.

i mean, yes it matters that you need to like the guy or girl - it's hard to be married to someone you don't like, no? but when you're attracted and you're in like with each other - there's no real need to wonder if he or she is The One or The Two or - y'know, there's no need to second guess.

i feel what you need to think about is whether you are a happy person to begin with.

after that, it's often easy to choose.

me, i know whomever i get together with i will aim to get along with and when i get along with someone it's easy to laugh through this journey together.

why don't you look for someone you can get along with?

or take it a step higher - look for one you can get along with, and fall madly in love with. i believe that these two, when put together, will make for a life full of laughter and contentment. but make sure you are a whole person to begin with!

if you're not whole and often experience bouts of loneliness even when you're with someone, the loneliness will only get worse - and when you finally cannot take it anymore and leave, you break the other person's heart as well. tell me, who deserves that kind of treatment?

...what if that person's a "whole" person and you're the one who needs to be whole? he's ready to be happy but isn't - that's like being involved in a drink-driving accident when he's the sober one. if you are scared of being lonely and do feel lonely - you probably aren't whole.

learn to be whole.

then you're ready to be happy. and meanwhile, screw the rest of the world - they can get married and have kids and their kids can have kids - you. you concentrate on being happy.

you don't want your kids to have an extra set of parents, and you don't want to have to deal with another heartache. it's ironic how you're ready to be together with someone only when you're happy being by yourself, eh?

well, don't panic, and be happy being by yourself.

you'll see.